How to Really Be Sexy in Lingerie

I remember my first, and last, lingerie party with one of the largest acceptable sex shop outlets. A friend of a friend (isn't it always the way), was working for them, and a large gaggle of girls congregated at someone's house to giggle over vibrators and try on sexy corsets.

It was the games which annoyed me. I remember one which involved holding a piece of paper on your head, and trying to draw a penis onto a man. I may be prejudiced as I've always hated party games, but this seemed so juvenile, and the antithesis to being grown-up and buying sexy lingerie.

Only such events are never about maturity. My excuse for even having been to one of these parties was I was sixteen at the time. I can't imagine going to one if you're not a teenager, but I know lots of women do. Maybe they're supposed to be liberating, but sniggering over strap-ons is not liberating.

I could possibly have forgiven all of this had the underwear I ordered (yes I know - but after a few drinks everyone felt obliged) was of a decent quality. However, it wasn't, and it fell apart very quickly, and was made out of horrible materials.

Decent materials is in fact one of the most important keys to decent lingerie. It is one of the reasons why I never buy lingerie online (the other reason being I'm a size 16, and it is impossible to know what will actually look good on a website). Even if an item is described as one hundred percent silk, doesn't account for what the lace is made out of, what quality of elastic is used.

One of the keys to feeling, and looking sexy, is feeling comfortable. Unless you are a very good actress, you will never look good unless you feel good. Wearing sexy lingerie is a very tactile experience, both for the wearer and whoever you may want to share said lingerie with. Polyester is not sexy, however nice it may look, because it feels like cardboard.

I would never go to one of these parties again. Not only do I feel too old, I don't see the point. Even if one of my best female friends decided to become a representative, I would not go. I am too old to be embarrassed into playing games, and I don't find sexual aids funny. Fun, yes, but something practical, not something to giggle over.

Sexy is very different to smut. All these kind of parties do is reduce something beautiful into something seedy. Women's liberation has meant we are now allowed to talk about, and enjoy sex. However, it doesn't mean we need to be reduced to the mentality of fourteen year old boys. It should mean we are able to derive pleasure from the beautiful, tactile, sexy experience wearing good quality lingerie can evoke. Good lingerie is about feeling good about ourselves as women, and we should not denigrate this experience.

Answers to Four Bra Problems That Often Are Not Discussed

We all are cursed with the concept of embarrassment. Okay, cursed is probably a strong word, but our fear of embarrassment often keeps us from asking questions we really need answers to. In this article, we take a look at some questions you might have about bras, but never get around to asking for whatever reason.

Q: Why is it that when I wear a bra, one cup feels fine but the other is tight/to loose?

The answer my dear is found in your breast size. Specifically, one is larger than the other. This is a very common situation, so don't feel put off by it. We are not robots. Our bodies are amazing, but they are not perfect.

So, what can we do about the problem? It depends on the size difference. First, buy a bra that fits the larger breast comfortably. If the other breast is slightly smaller, then consider tightening the strap for that cup, which will often resolve the problem. If you need a bit more of an adjustment, try buying little pads called "cookies". They are designed for just this problem and should create the extra volume you need to make the bra fit comfortably.

Q: This bra doesn't look right on me. What is wrong?

Asking this question in a store is never going to get you the correct answer. There salesperson will suggest it is the bra and give you others to try on. The truth is simply that not all bras look good on all women. Breasts come in many shapes and sizes. Some bras will make them look great while others will not. Accept your body type and focus on bras that look good on you. It is as simple as that.

Q: Why do I get rashes and hot red marks along the bottom of my breasts when wearing certain bras?

The answer is pretty simple - you are wearing the wrong size bra. The problems are being caused by the bra riding up on your breasts. Instead of the bottom sitting up against your rib cage, the bra is riding up over the bottom edge of your breast. It then squeezes and rubs against that skin causing redness and rashes. Go with a bottom band bra and bump up one cup size to see if the fit is better.

Q: My underwire bra is poking me in the area under my arm pit. What is the problem?

When it comes to bras, no subject gets more attention than the underwire poking problem. Poking is a sign of a fitting problem. If you are being poked on the inside of your armpit, the bra is probably too large. If you are being poked on the inside of your arm or on the edge of the breast, the bra is probably too small. Move up or down a size on the band. You may also need to adjust the cup size.

Finding a bra you like can be a real bear. In many ways, it is more of an art than anything else. You are unique and so is your body. Ignore what others are doing and focus on finding that perfect fit for your body.

Gift Giving 101 and Sexy Lingerie

The holidays are almost upon us. For those of us who celebrate Christmas in one form or another the commercialism is cranking up to it's usual tiresome decibel levels.

Not that I don't like some hullaballoo and family time at Christmas, but quality certainly tops quantity in my humble opinion.

When I was a young child, yes even me, I made my own gifts. You know, the ones you can make in art class like the sprayed gold macaroni necklace or the handprint in the clay ashtray (even though there were no smokers in our family). Homemade birthday and Christmas cards were accepted with delight. Now when I was a teen and above that kind of thing (but still had no money) I would buy my mother those glitzy Christmas brooches and my dad cotton handkerchiefs. Isn't it funny how I'm revealing my age-group just talking about gifts I made and gave? Those gifts were also graciously accepted but often stored away in the depths of a closet somewhere only to be rediscovered by some puzzled archeologist in the distant future.So, I was actually going somewhere with this - oh yes, Gift Giving 101 and sexy lingerie. Homemade gifts are truly the best whether they be cookies, a bottle of wine in a homemade bag, a family photo etc.

Perhaps you don't really feel like sticking your hand in wet clay or spray painting macaroni designs - don't fret, I have a solution for you.

I am making the assumption that you, the reader, are over the age of 18 - if not - stop reading this immediately!

Now that I know we are all adults here, I can give you my win-win gift idea. If you are female - no matter your size or shape, you have that je ne sais quoi that dazzles and confuses humans of the male persuasion. Buying yourself some curve enhancing sexy lingerie is just putting icing on the cake. You may think you are buying yourself a gift, but when your partner gets an eyeful of that gift wrapping they will be singing Joy To the World!

Ok, so if you're male, you also have the win-win option of buying some sexy lingerie for your beloved. She will think you see her as a sex goddess and deserving of such a thoughtful gift and those come hither looks will start scorching the air between you. But you win, as you see that incredible package you provided the wrapping for, slowly and enticingly unwrap herself just for you.

See? Win-win - sneaky to the core. Not quite homemade but definitely a home project!

Happy Holidays!

Tips on Buying Women's Lingerie Online

The shopping rush is on! Everyone is rushing to buy gifts for the holiday season. More and more shoppers are turning to online sites for their shopping needs. There are many reasons why online shopping is getting more and more popular. For example, let's say you are considering buying women's lingerie online. Here are some benefits.

Greater convenience.

The first benefit is that you save on having to commute to a brick and mortar retail store for a few pieces of lingerie. With a few clicks of the mouse, you can easily complete your purchase with very little hassle. All you need is a computer with an internet connection, and a valid credit card, and you can shop to your heart's content.

Greater savings.

Online lingerie retailers often run regular promotions to encourage new and existing customers to buy more. This is especially true during the holiday season. For example, if Christmas is just round the corner, you may be seeing promotions like "Xmas discounts", "Season greetings promotions", and so on. Sometimes, shipping may also be waived for the holiday season. In addition, it is possible to conduct some price comparison online before making a purchase. This will help you save even more money.

Wider selection.

Sometimes, when you visit a retail store, certain products or designs may not be on display due to lack of rack space or some other reason. This will not happen to an online store. You can easily choose from a wide selection of women lingerie, and place your order immediately. If a certain brand of model is out of stock, this will be reflected on the website. On a website, you can easily browse a wide selection of women lingerie in a very short amount of time.

Ease of browsing.

Many women lingerie online retailers make it easy for consumers to browse the lingerie that they have on sale. The shopping catalog comes complete with professionally taken photographs of lingerie models, and you can even click on the images for a close-up look if you want. This will help make your buying decision easier.

Ease of purchase.

Besides having secure credit card purchasing (which is the norm for ecommerce these days), you can also expect to have your customer information stored on the website. The first time you visit the online store and make a purchase, you will be asked to fill in mandatory information such as full name, address, credit card details and so on.

Once your information has been successfully stored on the website, you don't need to ever fill up those fields again. The next time you shop online for women lingerie, the website actually remembers you and fills in all the information automatically for you. This makes it extremely easy for anyone to buy lingerie online.

Only the latest.

As the website is a very powerful communication tool, the latest lingerie are usually posted for sale online very quickly. Hence, you can be assured that you get the latest lingerie designs from online retailers.

Given the benefits, perhaps it's time for you to consider buying lingerie online from now on.